03-03-2010 at 02:01 PM
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Question..
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So I recently signed a lease for a house for the coming fall term.. but now my mother is suddenly having problems with the people I'm living with... (she's very traditional).. so I was wondering what I should do? I tried posting up adds for my room but no one has really replied or expressed interest - it's really a great house  .
Any thoughts?
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03-03-2010 at 02:03 PM
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what is wrong with the people you are living with? It is you that is living there not your mom...If your okay living those people then I dont really see the problem?
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03-03-2010 at 02:03 PM
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what exactly is it your mother doesn't like about your roommates? maybe other people won't want your roommates either.
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03-03-2010 at 02:05 PM
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No,my roommates are actually awesome.
They're all in health sci, so the house is a non partyish one. What my mom has a problem with - not meaning to offend anyone - is that I am not living with brown people , as I am brown. And also there is one guy in the house too so she has a problem there too.
I understand that she's not living there, but I would rather she be comfortable with my living situation
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03-03-2010 at 02:27 PM
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Is your mom paying the rent? If she is, well, you're in quite a pickle.
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03-03-2010 at 02:40 PM
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I apologize in advance... but tell your mom to get over it.
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03-03-2010 at 02:48 PM
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I apologize in advance... but tell your mom to get over it.
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You clearly have never met a brown mother. They are a force to be reckoned with. |
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03-03-2010 at 03:20 PM
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No,my roommates are actually awesome.
They're all in health sci, so the house is a non partyish one. What my mom has a problem with - not meaning to offend anyone - is that I am not living with brown people , as I am brown. And also there is one guy in the house too so she has a problem there too.
I understand that she's not living there, but I would rather she be comfortable with my living situation
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my mom is the same, i simply explained to her that she was placing brown guys on some sort of pedestal. They do the same type of partying, they drink excessively, skip classes etc. Play the guilt card, ask her if she behaves this way because she doesn't trust your judgement? Remind her that she has instilled proper values in you and you know right from wrong.
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03-03-2010 at 03:21 PM
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You clearly have never met a brown mother. They are a force to be reckoned with.
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Yes they are! We had a similair issue. We convinced her that racism is not welcome.
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03-03-2010 at 04:01 PM
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I've tried talking to her about this many times.. but the end of the matter is she is simply not comfortable with me living there... and I'm trying to find alternatives but am failing miserably
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03-03-2010 at 04:23 PM
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try placing an add on kijji.
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Invite all the housemates over to your parents house for dinner, have them be respectful, talk about their future goals and how they are hard working and want to be successful, make sure they eat everything on their plate, make sure they ask for seconds, then make sure they do the dishes.
Oh yeah and make sure your grandma is there if possible, grandmothers love healthy eaters.
Unless we are talking about girls, I have no idea how to impress brown grandmothers as a girl, but I have done it many times as a boy. Just eat everything they give you. If the grandmothers like you, everyone will like you.
Problem solved.
(this will work on old people from any group: shut up, let them talk, and eat everything they give you)
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03-03-2010 at 04:38 PM
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Oh yeah the other thing is you could just get brown friends to be there when your parents are there, then once your parents leave the non-brown people can come back.
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03-03-2010 at 05:33 PM
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Hey
So I recently signed a lease for a house for the coming fall term.. but now my mother is suddenly having problems with the people I'm living with... (she's very racist).. so I was wondering what I should do? I tried posting up adds for my room but no one has really replied or expressed interest - it's really a great house .
Any thoughts?
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03-03-2010 at 05:44 PM
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Generally, the only way to get out of a lease is to pay 4 month's worth of rent. If you can't do that, you have to tell your mom to suck it up. It may not sound like it, but she is being racist, and you shouldn't have to cater to that. Tell her that unless she pays to get you out of the lease, then you're going to be staying there and she's going to have to deal with it.
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