Originally Posted by andrew22

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I don't get it

@Kathy - I don't think my mom is being racist, she actually really likes the people I'm living with in the sense that they are studious and non troublemakers. I think she's worried more in the cultural sense rather than the racial background. Go figure.
Thanks everyone for your help though, I will definitely try to have another conversation with her

Originally Posted by Kathy2

It may not sound like it, but she is being racist, and you shouldn't have to cater to that.

The mother does not feel comfortable with her daughter's living condition....that does not make her a racist! There are plenty of justifiable reasons explaining why she wants her daughter to live with students with similar backgrounds.

I would suggest continuing to post up advertisements. Maybe someone will respond closer to the start of next year.

Good luck!

So your mom's a racist?

I don't know if anyone here can help you with that.

Originally Posted by sew12

So your mom's a racist?

I don't know if anyone here can help you with that.

No, she is not. I think that has already been established...

Originally Posted by rrtt

The mother does not feel comfortable with her son’s living condition....that does not make her a racist! There are plenty of justifiable reasons explaining why she wants her son to live with students with similar backgrounds.

I would suggest continuing to post up advertisements. Maybe someone will respond closer to the start of next year.

Good luck!

Um...daughter

Originally Posted by rrtt

The mother does not feel comfortable with her son’s living condition....that does not make her a racist! There are plenty of justifiable reasons explaining why she wants her son to live with students with similar backgrounds.

I didn't realize there were justifications for racial discrimination. Care to share some with us?

Next time I want to discriminate against someone based on their race I'd like to know how to justify it.

Um no offense but i did not start this thread so everyone could call my mom a racist and bash on her - I just needed some solutions to my problem

Originally Posted by Keenu

Um...daughter

Ah sorry! It's all fixed now

Originally Posted by Keenu

Hey
So I recently signed a lease for a house for the coming fall term.. but now my mother is suddenly having problems with the people I'm living with... (she's very traditional).. so I was wondering what I should do? I tried posting up adds for my room but no one has really replied or expressed interest - it's really a great house.
Any thoughts?

Thanks in advance

I think her actions are fair. She is probably scared you are going to get introduced to a different lifestyle, values, etc. because you are living with people who don't share your background. Which is possible. I don't think she is being racist at all. I think I would want the same for my kids.

its a rather difficult ideology to understand from a "western" point of view. It has nothing to do with race, skin colour, its more of a cultural thing. Im assuming that keenu, is a female and that a male friend is living there. Any traditional brown mother wouldn't tolerate it. They have a tendency to assume the worst.

Originally Posted by Keenu

Um no offense but i did not start this thread so everyone could call my mom a racist and bash on her - I just needed some solutions to my problem

Well your mom is being racist in my opinion and you've posted on an internet forum to solicit opinions.

I can see that you're in a hard situation b/c you respect your parent's opinion and they're paying for the rent but your mother is discriminating against people on the basis of their race which by definition is racism and shouldn't be tolerated.

The reason racism continues on into today's society is b/c people tolerate it and give justifications for it.

Either your mother is being racist or you haven't explained the situation properly. You yourself said it was b/c your roommates aren't brown.

Re: "Western" viewpoint, just b/c you're from a different background doesn't make it okay to discriminate.

Originally Posted by sew12

Well your mom is being racist in my opinion and you've posted on an internet forum to solicit opinions.

I can see that you're in a hard situation b/c you respect your parent's opinion and they're paying for the rent but your mother is discriminating against people on the basis of their race why by definition is racism and shouldn't be tolerated.

The reason racism continues on into today's society is b/c people tolerate it and give justifications for it.

Either your mother is being racist or you haven't explained the situation properly. You yourself said it was b/c your roommates aren't brown.

She is not discriminating against another race. Maybe you should reread Keenu's posts.

Nonetheless, the point of this thread is to help the OP find a way out of her lease. Let’s try to keep this thread relevant and on topic!

Originally Posted by sew12

Either your mother is being racist or you haven't explained the situation properly. You yourself said it was b/c your roommates aren't brown.

Re: "Western" viewpoint, just b/c you're from a different background doesn't make it okay to discriminate.

"Brown" was used loosely and so is the use of "race" as a consequence. From what has been said her mother's issue seems to stem more from cultural discordance. Not all brown people hold the same values and perspectives culturally.

Originally Posted by rrtt

She is not discriminating against another race. Maybe you should reread Keenu's posts.

Nonetheless, the point of this thread is to help the OP find a way out of her lease. Let’s try to keep this thread relevant and on topic!

She's discriminating against her daughter's roommates on the basis that they aren't brown, so yeah maybe she's discriminating against multiple other groups of people but nonetheless she's discriminating.

If she doesn't want her daughter to live with a male housemate I get that but what's wrong with the females other than the fact that they aren't brown?

Again either her mother is discriminating or she hasn't explained the situation well enough. From what she said her mother doesn't agree with her living with roommates who aren't of the same racial/cultural background as her, that's discriminatory. What makes your race/ethnic culture better than theirs? Why is it not okay for her to live with people from a different background?

There's no justification for this attitude. Maybe you agree with her mother's point of view but its not okay.

Originally Posted by Proxy

"Brown" was used loosely and so is the use of "race" as a consequence. From what has been said her mother's issue seems to stem more from cultural discordance. Not all brown people hold the same values and perspectives culturally.

Yes that does seem to be more of the issue, but its also not okay to discriminate against people on the basis that their culture is different from yours. What makes their culture so superior that she cannot live in the same house with people from different backgrounds?