The end goal of dating is marriage. With that being said, you should get to know someone before you start dating them. And when problems arise, the two of you should try to solve it. After all, a relationship should take commitment and time.

But the thing is, a lot of people talk about how "experience" is important. Is it?


Share your thoughts!


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Originally Posted by Desda

The end goal of dating is marriage.

from a female perspective,sure.

^ What is that suppose to mean? "From a female prospective." There are guys who think like that too.

Care to explain the "male prospective then? -.-

Marriage doesn't work in today's society. Infidelity is on the rise and will only keep increasing, divorce is inevitable. Before someone says, "bu bu my grandparents have been happily married for over 70 years!" You have to realize that those were different times back then.

Yup, there are no alternatives to marriage. None whatsoever.

For most of the time, all I can think of is free food. *hint/nudge*

"Its the journey thats important, not the end goal."











or some sappy shat like that?

Originally Posted by Desda

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Mine is

I would like to be married at some point, and that's coming from a person with separated parents. I don't know if my views would be different if I hadn't been dating someone for several years now, but it's definitely difficult to reach that kind of point I would think, especially at our age. Guys our age most likely aren't thinking of marriage, some of them are obviously, but not as many. These are more important things to consider when we're older.

That said, yeah, experience is really important. Getting to know someone and becoming comfortable with them is probably one of the best phases of the relationship.

lol well i like just going with the flow, i dont like to think too far ahead and complicate matters with thoughts like "oh is she the one.... i think imma marry her" cause that just ends up messing things up in the relationship its not something worth thinking about until you've dated for maybe 3 years or so at our age i think... personally when i date a girl i just want to have a good time, make sum memories, get to know her and in general juts have fun
well that i want at start in a relationship anyways after like a few years then talking about marriage and stuff shouldn't be tooo bad

for most guys end point is to get laid. for others like me it is just to always make them happy

Originally Posted by Leeoku

for most guys end point is to get laid. for others like me it is just to always make them happy

i agree thatz what most guys mainly want but i dunno now im noticing in uni guys are also trying to get a lil more serious with girls (other than the obvious just party like crazy with no worries dudes lol). like im just looking for a proper gurl to have good time with... and its acutally pretty hard to find

Originally Posted by Leeoku

for most guys end point is to get laid=

Hm....

First of all, marriage, in the Western sense, is a social construct dating back to the Middle Ages, where it was used primarily as a method of marrying off the daughters of rich, fat noblemen to other rich, fat noblemen or their pampered sons. So really, when we talk about the "institution of marriage", we're talking about an archaic system of formulating inter-familial alliances which has subjugated women for centuries, and that has now somehow been hideously sewed onto the emotional concept of love. But romance has nothing to do with it!

A relationship, in my opinion, is a different thing entirely. That is what really matters and what is actually real. I think we can abandon this exploitative mechanism that is marriage and move on to better things.

Oy vey!

(disclaimer: my opinions may or may not be interpreted as a ranting excursus, but that's just my two cents)

Originally Posted by BluandExile

meh understandable