Hey macinsiders
I've seen this perfect girl today at one of the school restaurants.
The moment I saw her I just knew that she was my ideal type.
Much to my surprise, she was eating alone and I was eating with a couple of my buddies.
I really wanted to talk to her but it was one of those awkward situations where there were so many people around where she was sitting so I couldn't even talk to her.
Then I finished my meal and she finished hers, and there was this very awkward eye contact.. For some reason, I didn't want to give her an impression that I am interested in her, so I just looked away as if I'm not even interested (I know.. I'm dumb.. maybe I should just punch myself)
My friends went to classes and I just stayed there. The funny thing is she was just sitting there as well (it wasn't like she was waiting for anyone, so why?? whywhywhy) doing pretty much nothing. I sat where I was sitting pretending like I'm doing something like a dumb PoS. Then after like 10 minutes, she finally left. GG..
I don't know anything about her at this point, and there's no guarantee that I will ever see her again. But I'm gonna go there around the same time everyday and hope that I'd meet her once more.
If I get really lucky enough to see her again, I want to say something to her. I don't want to just sit there like a dumb fk this time. But what should I say to her...? She's a complete stranger and we might not even have a common background to have a decent conversation. And what if she already has a boyfriend :(?
I can't get her image out of my head, and I have midterms coming up but I can't even focus at all. It's been like this all day ever since I saw her.
Thanks for reading this, and any advice would help a lot!
PS. I will keep you updated if anything else happens..
I would say be yourself and be forward, say that you think she's cute and that you would like to ask her out. If you are shy, you can just follow her until she on the way to the class or something.
I don't know man, that's just the basics. I really see why you are holding back tho, it's hard to hear "no". I asked 3 girls out myself in the last couple of years, without any luck. Maybe just my bad luck, or bad looks, or both... or maybe chicks just don't go for 93 years old psychopathic murderers.
You should still try tho, as in the future you will regretting something you didn't do, and it is even worse that hearing "no".
Last edited by MrPlinkett : 10-10-2013 at 01:38 PM.
Just remember that when you first meet someone (in this case you haven't even met them yet), your brain tends to fill in the blanks about them that you don't know. So while it's totally fine that you have interest in her, when you say things like "perfect girl", "I know she was my type", and "I can't get the thought of her out of my head" it indicates to me that your "filling in these blanks" so-to-speak. Other than her looks, you don't know her, and are subconsciously making assumptions about her to fit your prototypical "girlfriend material". Believe me, this is bad idea and although it is hard, try to avoid making this mistake. In high school, I thought I was in love with this girl for years, I barely knew. I thought she was beautiful and perfect for me. Turns out she had a quite rude personality and we shared nothing in common. Not saying this girl isn't right for you, just saying that you don't know that yet. So in saying that, look for a chance to get to know what you don't know, don't try to look for a chance to jump into a relationship because that really could end bad for both of you. As for advice, I always recommend trying to make friends with someone you have an interest in. My belief is that if you aren't best friends, then how in the world do you expect to be in a relationship. I see far too many people who jump right from being strangers to being a "couple", without getting a chance to really see if they even get along as friends. Beside,s, the one you will want to be with in the end will be your best friend. But this is just my opinion. After being through several relationships, this is the biggest mistake I've noticed that I have made, and seen others make. Best of luck!
10-10-2013 at 01:22 PM
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If you're getting hung up on somebody you haven't had a conversation with, this is really problematic. The best bet is to just find an excuse to talk to her, such as asking her a question about something relevant to the environment (directions is the easiest); there is no getting around the fact that you'll be scared.. its going to stay that way until you get practice/comfortable. If you happen to be in the restaurant situation again, alcohol might give you some bravado you wouldn't otherwise have?
The moment I saw her I just knew that she was my ideal type.
Lol, get real. Don't waste your time on a girl that you haven't even talked to.
Learn from this incident and the next time you see *a girl* (not necessarily the same one), act on it. Don't get hung up on a girl that you will never see again. You're better than that.
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10-11-2013 at 06:34 PM
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Just say exactly what he says. Keep it classy!
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10-11-2013 at 08:15 PM
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You're over thinking. A lot of the time I just sit and eat by myself and continue to sit doing nothing even after I'm finished. She was probably just waiting for her next class or waiting for her bus or something. I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but she probably didn't even notice this incredible eye contact moment you so supposedly shared. She's just some girl, there are plenty of good looking girls on campus. How do you know she's not crazy? dumb? rude?
Don't waste your time with this infatuation. If you happen to see her again at random, then great! but don't go to the same exact spot every single day just to try to catch a glimpse of her. You'll just be setting yourself up for disappointment. If by chance she does show up, and you talk to her, what makes you think she'll be interested? Even if you're a good looking guy, a lot of girls don't just give their number out to just any guy that asks. (if she has standards, she won't, at least.)
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10-11-2013 at 08:22 PM
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Originally Posted by SweetyTweety
You're over thinking. A lot of the time I just sit and eat by myself and continue to sit doing nothing even after I'm finished. She was probably just waiting for her next class or waiting for her bus or something. I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but she probably didn't even notice this incredible eye contact moment you so supposedly shared. She's just some girl, there are plenty of good looking girls on campus. How do you know she's not crazy? dumb? rude?
Don't waste your time with this infatuation. If you happen to see her again at random, then great! but don't go to the same exact spot every single day just to try to catch a glimpse of her. You'll just be setting yourself up for disappointment. If by chance she does show up, and you talk to her, what makes you think she'll be interested? Even if you're a good looking guy, a lot of girls don't just give their number out to just any guy that asks. (if she has standards, she won't, at least.)
OUCH. I don't quite agree with ur last sentence. I'm a guy and some girls have come up to me to ask for my number. Whenever that happens, I just give them my number even if I have no interest in them. It's not like I don't have standards. I know it's not an easy thing for many people to ask for numbers so why hurt their feelings? It doesn't have to be love, and who knows? I might be good friends with them.
10-11-2013 at 09:01 PM
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Even if you're a good looking guy, a lot of girls don't just give their number out to just any guy that asks. (if she has standards, she won't, at least.
So if a pretty boy can't get a number, what about ugly fucks like us mere mortals?
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