I waited till 20...wanted it to be with someone I really cared about and I'm super happy I waited,
EDIT: but I'll be honest, there were times when I felt like there was something wrong with me for still being a virgin..

People lose it when they're ready. Kinda unfortunate that it's so stigmatized. I'd say its a bit strange by 25 or so for guys, and no age limit for girls

This thread keeps on going and going and going

Originally Posted by Tailsnake

It seems to be 16/17



I can only think of one girl I know who's a virgin by choice at 19-20, the only other girls that I know that are still virgins at that age have never (or at least not recently) had a committed BF to put their conviction in being a virgin to the test, but I doubt they'd last.

well i guess it comes down to how you were raised cause i know a shit load of girls who are still virgins and a shit load who pretend to be virgins still to look like a good guy. I dunno about other guys but i prefer to be with a virgin girl for most parts not saying that i would ever reject a girl just cause she isn't but still.

Originally Posted by bloodywarz

well i guess it comes down to how you were raised cause i know a shit load of girls who are still virgins and a shit load who pretend to be virgins still to look like a good guy. I dunno about other guys but i prefer to be with a virgin girl for most parts not saying that i would ever reject a girl just cause she isn't but still.

I guess so, Brampton/Sauga were pretty messed up

Originally Posted by crazyfree

Also-35 year old moms=hot

As a 30-something, I'm gonna have to say no. Ewh.

Originally Posted by SilentWalker

Goal of 'a relationship' is to be happy, and make a girl even happier, without taking from her what isn't yours to take. And result is marriage. If this isn't so, then it isn't a 'relationship'...it's an experiment.

Bottom line:

Don't get into a serious relationship if you're not willing to go all the way. Get to know the person first...as friends, even though you may have other ideas in mind.

You'll be surprised how much you'll find out...things that, had you gotten straight into a relationship, you wish you had known before you guys started dating. It'd save the heartbreak, that's for sure.

...Coming from a guy who has never been in a 'relationship'.

_____

On a side note:

I think the whole 'dating' term, 'boyfriend/girlfriend' term, and 'being in a relationship' is pretty much bullcrap. Why is there a distinct line between 1) two people who like each other and are friends, and 2) two people who like each other and are official? Why does it have to a official or unofficial? Why place labels on it?

I see people who just started being 'in a relationship' and a week, or two, or even a month later they're 'broken up'. Fact is, you were never 'in a relationship'. You were two people getting to know each other, realized that you're not each other types, and then went you own way. Why did they have to become 'officially in a relationship' before even getting to know each other?

All this terminology for each 'stage' of a 'relationship' make it so much funnier when they 'break up'.

I think people make it official because it means (or you think it means, or it SHOULD mean) that you are committed to each other, one-on-one. There is nobody else, just you. And also, it puts out a message to the rest of the world that "he/she is mine, back off!". But I agree that you don't need to be "official" before you really get to know each other. But it does suck if you both like each other but decide to be friends first, and then as you get to know each other, one still likes the other while the other doesn't. But then in that case, a relationship would not work out anyways. Ugh it's all so confusing.

Yep 16/17 seems to be the age you lose it, or people start looking at you funny. And no I dont think people lose it "when theyre ready".

And yea Tailsnake, sleeping around a few decades ago was like the worst thing you can do, but honestly... my parents circle of friends... all of the women are leaving their husbands now after theyve slept around and decided they want "better".

Originally Posted by Melanieee

And no I dont think people lose it "when theyre ready".

Meant to put "some" in front of that.. obviously some (most) people want it gone as soon as possible

Originally Posted by Melanieee

Yep 16/17 seems to be the age you lose it, or people start looking at you funny. And no I dont think people lose it "when theyre ready".

I know I did, and I have a (limited) number of friends/acquaintances who did the same. As in waiting till they were ready. And I can assure you this wasn't easy ...with my sex drive, virginity would have gone out the window as soon as puberty hit. My point being that it wasn't because I didn't want to, or didn't have the option, but that I chose to wait, despite what the social "norm" seems to be these days. It's possible and it happens.

And yea Tailsnake, sleeping around a few decades ago was like the worst thing you can do, but honestly... my parents circle of friends... all of the women are leaving their husbands now after theyve slept around and decided they want "better".

:(

Originally Posted by rcrw88

Meant to put "some" in front of that.. obviously some (most) people want it gone as soon as possible

I still don't get this...someone mentioned before that virginity was a burden. Why would you want it gone as soon as possible/see it as a burden?

Originally Posted by reeves

As a 30-something, I'm gonna have to say no. Ewh.

Sorry I should have clarified... 35 year old mom=hotter than 35 year old grand mother

I don't see why people get so touchy on the subject of virginity. What someone does or doesn't do in the bedroom is none of their business. If someone chooses not to have sex, big deal. And if they do, big deal. This always happens when personal topics are discussed in a public realm, you get everyone's opinion on it but without any actual change. At the end of the day, people are still going to do what they want.

Originally Posted by AelyaS

I don't see why people get so touchy on the subject of virginity. What someone does or doesn't do in the bedroom is none of their business. If someone chooses not to have sex, big deal. And if they do, big deal. This always happens when personal topics are discussed in a public realm, you get everyone's opinion on it but without any actual change. At the end of the day, people are still going to do what they want.

Truesay. Some people are still going to go around effing anything that walks on two legs and has a pecker.

Originally Posted by Desda

Truesay. Some people are still going to go around effing anything that walks on two legs and has a pecker.

Sometimes, not even that.

Originally Posted by AelyaS

Sometimes, not even that.

Originally Posted by AelyaS

I don't see why people get so touchy on the subject of virginity. What someone does or doesn't do in the bedroom is none of their business. If someone chooses not to have sex, big deal. And if they do, big deal. This always happens when personal topics are discussed in a public realm, you get everyone's opinion on it but without any actual change. At the end of the day, people are still going to do what they want.

Very true. It's interesting to get other people's perspectives, though. Not always good, but interesting.

I never really considered discussion an attempt to change someones opinion. More just a sharing of opinions.