Originally Posted by starfish

I think it's normal for a relationship to be behind school some of the time, but when a SO is never your priority because you just focus on school, that's not fair to them unless they signed up for it - that's all I meant.

Balance is key

Something being a higher priority doesn't mean you never pay attention to other things. It means if there's some sort of conflict (say I want to go visit the SO in Windsor, but I have 2 midterms on Monday), the higher priority item takes precedence.

It's also in the perspective of the individual. Many posts have been made saying they "don't get their max potential in achievement" if they have a gf. Well some people just do what they want to be happy. If getting a high end job or making a difference is your thing then do that. If finding a girl that makes you happy is more important do that. Everyone is different.

Depends on your relationship.

If you're in a healthy relationship that can settle disputes through communication your girlfriend, and can always "hug it out" at the end, you don't have to worry much about conflict distracting you.
If your partner values school as well, she'll be understanding about your schedule.

Partying/clubbing/going out with friends doesn't JUST imply scoping out chicks.
Getting drunk and having fun with your friends is a good break from school.
You can also go to parties and clubs with your girlfriend.

Just get in a good relationship and it won't be as hard as you think!

The winning formula coming from someone who's completed high school with honors and a 92 average but still wasn't allowed into health science program. (a.k.a, This isn't me, lol);

Here it is ladies and gentleman;

school+distraction = less(than)(stellar)(g rades)

L.S.
sub. girlfriend=distractio n
school+girlfriend

Therefore;
school+girlfriend = less(than)(stellar)(g rades)

L.S.=R.S.
Therefore, proven.

EDIT:
After having read some of the other posts, let me also throw in the following equation;
alcohol = clubs = chicks = partying = drunk = girlfriend = distraction.
Now you can just sub into the first formula to solve any problem you have.

wow..
I can't believe some of the comments on here..
Guys, we're still young.
you may be worried about finding a good job in the future to have a better life, but you need to realize that we're alive right now.
Any one of you could die at any moment, and you will have missed out on love and fun, why? because you didn't want to get "distracted"?

p.s.. If the only way you can achieve decent grades is without a social life, I feel terribly sorry for you.

"People were going to be doctors but then ended up as construction workers because they had a girlfriend"... lol, seriously..?
This whole thread is absolutely ridiculous.

Originally Posted by RiskBreaker

The winning formula coming from someone who's completed high school with honors and a 92 average but still wasn't allowed into health science program. (a.k.a, This isn't me, lol);

Here it is ladies and gentleman;

school+distraction = less(than)(stellar)(g rades)

L.S.
sub. girlfriend=distractio n
school+girlfriend

Therefore;
school+girlfriend = less(than)(stellar)(g rades)

L.S.=R.S.
Therefore, proven.

EDIT:
After having read some of the other posts, let me also throw in the following equation;
alcohol = clubs = chicks = partying = drunk = girlfriend = distraction.
Now you can just sub into the first formula to solve any problem you have.

This. Is. Genius.

Do I have permission to copy?

school+distraction = less(than)(stellar)(g rades)

Here's my equation. Experimentally Proven.

(Life) - (Girlfriend) = (Mountain of Crusty Socks)

Originally Posted by Zebedee

Okay, so, to clarify, maybe what I should have said is that if you are trying to have a career in a highly competitive field, one extra 12 can make a large difference. The secretary/construction/teacher field is not very competitive academically...or, well, not as competitive as the graduate/professional world. Correct me if I'm wrong, but an engineer can get a very good job with a 10.0 CA and an undergrad in engineering. My 10.0 C.A. and BHSc degree will get me a job as a part-time lab assistant, if that. I suppose what I'm saying to OP is to think about how great a distraction dating will cause. If you can handle it, then go for it. It works well for some people. For others, it doesn't. All depends on your goals.

Originally Posted by RiskBreaker

The winning formula coming from someone who's completed high school with honors and a 92 average but still wasn't allowed into health science program. (a.k.a, This isn't me, lol);

Here it is ladies and gentleman;

school+distraction = less(than)(stellar)(g rades)

L.S.
sub. girlfriend=distractio n
school+girlfriend

Therefore;
school+girlfriend = less(than)(stellar)(g rades)

L.S.=R.S.
Therefore, proven.

EDIT:
After having read some of the other posts, let me also throw in the following equation;
alcohol = clubs = chicks = partying = drunk = girlfriend = distraction.
Now you can just sub into the first formula to solve any problem you have.

dem health sci kids

I think it is disputable that a love life in University would cause a negative correlation to how well you will perform in school. Everyone is talking about "ohhh this is bullshit, you just need to balance" , well; you all accepting that there is a need of balance already confirms the fact that a relationship will cause a toll on your studies. If this is a myth, then there should be no dispute. My parents came here because of an education for a better future, don't forget that, why are we going to university. Sure you can say the university experience and to have fun and all, but in the end, it is bottled down to getting a degree that can make you competitive in the job market.

I think there is alot of bias here and the OP is correct, if you value your education. The 10~20 grand you put into your education to get a good job at the end, then you will be spending 100% of your time at school work. It doesn't mean not having fun, you can go to clubs that can develop you as a person. I don't see how cuddling for hours or talking on a phone 6 hours a day can make you any better at school.

I am just being objective here, not being a *****, but proof is proof

First of all I just have to say that this thread is pretty funny.

The way the side of "having a girlfriend (or boyfriend for that matter) will interfere with your studies" comes across to me is that many of them have likely never had a steady/long term girlfriend or boyfriend. Looking at things logically, yes your education is important and should be a top priority, but experiencing this type of relationship can also be important. It helps you grow as a person mentally/emotionally and helps you learn about relationship dynamics, how to problem solve in relationships, etc. In general, it will help you down the road to have, at the very least, gained some experience in this area so that it's not completely new to you by the time you have completed your schooling.

As long as you can keep a balance and practice time management there's no reason you can't have a relationship while in university. I also agree with another poster's point about the fact that you should enjoy yourself because you never know what will happen in the future.

Originally Posted by maciej91

From my experience having a girlfriend in mcmaster, taking engineering is a bad idea. School takes up a lot time and inorder to excel you need to be in a school mind set. Having a girlfriend is a distraction. There will be fights and on those days the last thing you think about is school.
Another major part of uni is the partying life style. While having a girlfriend you are much less inclined to go to clubs or even parties because you cant chase girls. So in my opinion save it for after school, when you are settled down and your looking to spice up your life.
What do you think?

You make engineering sound like Mac's version of the Night's Watch.

Relationship now is good. You say that its hard balancing school and girlfriend. How then, will you learn to balance school with work once you finish school and started working? Prioritization is a crucial skill that need learn early.

This whole thread makes me laugh. I'm married, have a two year old, run a business, and maintain a full course load (with mostly 12s). Yes, you can have relationships while in school and still get stellar grades. And YES it takes work.

Don't discredit this thread just because of that. You look really old so obviously have experience. This is a good example of the need to obtain this skill and thus have relationship while in school to gain partially.

Originally Posted by _Luu_

You make engineering sound like Mac's version of the Night's Watch.

I think Engineering is probably the hardest program to take out of any other program, partying and engineering definitely don't mix...