Originally Posted by AlienSummer

I wouldn't ask the person I love to put their goals or dreams on hold for me, and I expect they wouldn't ask me to either.

Maybe you're not necessariy asking that person, it's maybe not even something you think about. You just know you HAVE to do it.

I'd do pretty much anything. We've been together for such a long time though, it's basically "a sure thing". It's not like if I moved/switched schools for him, there'd be a big chance we'd break up. I might actually have to end up moving later this year for him. My reaction was more like "Of course I'll move", rather than "I don't know if I should, let me think about it."

Originally Posted by lizziepizzie

Maybe you're not necessariy asking that person, it's maybe not even something you think about. You just know you HAVE to do it.

Now I think you're just trying to be difficult because some people aren't giving you the answer you're looking for.

If I just know I HAVE to do it, then it's not really a question and I couldn't possibly answer this because chances are it wouldn't really be a decision I would make but something that I would either do or not do without thinking about it.

definitely something they would consider stupid unless it were actually happening

Originally Posted by AlienSummer

Now I think you're just trying to be difficult because some people aren't giving you the answer you're looking for.

If I just know I HAVE to do it, then it's not really a question and I couldn't possibly answer this because chances are it wouldn't really be a decision I would make but something that I would either do or not do without thinking about it.

I'm not trying to be difficult. Nope. Just voicing my own opinion that maybe it wouldn't be something you would have to think about (not you specifically, just a person in general).

Hmmmm....

I would've (and have done) quite a lot that I sometimes regret...

However it was a learning experience. I am never prioritizing love over other needs again. There need to be a balance of all needs.

What would I do for the chick I love ?

Not penetrate her anally like I've done to other chicks right before I made them walk home.

i'd catch a grenade for them... then throw it back with RB.

Love is understanding, love is compromise, love is peaceful, love is doing what ever it takes to make the other person happy at -ALMOST- any cost, love is what any conflict work out. If you truly "loved" someone, you'll be able to do anything for them, otherwise it is no more than a lie when you're saying to someone you "love" them.

If you're unable to bring your self to do as much as possible for the person you love, you don't really love them.

Originally Posted by Commander

What would I do for the chick I love ?

Not penetrate her anally like I've done to other chicks right before I made them walk home.

I hardly think you "made them walk home." That's really demoralizing and disrespectful.

Originally Posted by MrVJPMAn

Love is understanding, love is compromise, love is peaceful, love is doing what ever it takes to make the other person happy at -ALMOST- any cost, love is what any conflict work out. If you truly "loved" someone, you'll be able to do anything for them, otherwise it is no more than a lie when you're saying to someone you "love" them.

If you're unable to bring your self to do as much as possible for the person you love, you don't really love them.

And there's the key. As much as POSSIBLE.

A point towards the original discussion-realistically, what's better in the long run-having spent every moment together, or having toughed out some years of long distance as you finished school so that you'll both be able to support each other and a family diwn the road? TBH if its really true love you'll be able to stand through any hardship, including not seeing each for months at a time. If you can't last that, then you probably weren't cut out for it in the first place.

I see that more as "doing anything for them" -putting yourselves through the pain and suffering that is long distance-the compromises that comes with time differences, the constant tug and pull of what is right in front of you, and whats is miles away. That really shows someone you love them-being able to tough it out and suffer for what you believe is something greater than all that suffering. Basically saying they're worth the pain. Moving is easy, compared to struggling through it IMO.

I'm actually in a bit of a kerfuffle with the Canadian government atm, because they basically put you in this position, where you essentially have to chose between school and the one you love. Immigration basically says that you can only qualify as conjugal partners if there something legally in the way of you being together-NOT things like school etc. ...so basically they expect you to give up that stuff so you can instead be common-law. UM wtf, who wrote the law here, some deep romantic who expects couples do that that stuff? Its not viable these days, where an education is fairly paramount to ever having a career. blah.

thread died the moment captain philosophy got here

I think there are two different arguments happening. Those who say no are mostly saying that they wouldn't give up their goals and dreams, while those who are saying yes are mostly saying that they would move away for the person they love.

Would I move for the person I love? Probably. Would I give up everything I've worked towards and what I'm passionate about for the person I love? Doubtful. My goals, dreams, and passions are a huge part of me, and I'm not going to give up something about myself in order to be with someone. I'd like to think that the person I love will love me enough to support me in all of that, not put me in a position where I have to choose.

Originally Posted by lawleypop

I come first. Plain and simple.

I wonder if there's a double entendre in there.

And yes: Some engineers know about literary devices, in case anyone's surprised that I just referenced one.

Originally Posted by mike_302

I wonder if there's a double entendre in there.

And yes: Some engineers know about literary devices, in case anyone's surprised that I just referenced one.

I am surprised lol. Do yo know what "juxtapose" means?