Originally Posted by reeves

GODDAMIT WHY IS MY GF POSTING THIS??

Implying he has a girlfriend.

Oh yeah I did a bit of research, supposedly being afraid of approaching people to the point where it is an impediment is classified as a form of Social Anxiety Disorder. It is a medical condition that can be treated with medication or therapies.

So for everyone who has been of the mentality that I should "man up and approach women", that is the same as you telling a crippled person in a wheel chair to "nut up and just walk". I hope you all feel horrible for not being nicer to be, but dont worry, I forgive you.

One of the therapies for Social Anxiety Disorder is "Social Skills Training". Supposedly when you have been hiding from life for so long, you need to be retrained on how to act in public and interact with people. I wonder how many people on this forum could benefit from it?

Originally Posted by Rossclot

Oh yeah I did a bit of research, supposedly being afraid of approaching people to the point where it is an impediment is classified as a form of Social Anxiety Disorder. It is a medical condition that can be treated with medication or therapies.

So for everyone who has been of the mentality that I should "man up and approach women", that is the same as you telling a crippled person in a wheel chair to "nut up and just walk". I hope you all feel horrible for not being nicer to be, but dont worry, I forgive you.

One of the therapies for Social Anxiety Disorder is "Social Skills Training". Supposedly when you have been hiding from life for so long, you need to be retrained on how to act in public and interact with people. I wonder how many people on this forum could benefit from it?

Yay for diagnosing yourself with Google.

ITT: win.

Actually I used the St. Josephs Anxiety and research center, they are part of the McMaster hospital ring.


lawleypop fail, on snap

Originally Posted by Rossclot

I hope you all feel horrible for not being nicer to be, but dont worry, I forgive you.

Not particularly, I guess that makes me a bad person. On the other hand, a lack of remorse is one of the symptoms of antisocial personality disorder and, like all personality disorders, it can't be treated at all.

I hope you feel horrible for attempting to make me feel bad about a condition that's even more bleak than yours.

Originally Posted by Rossclot

Actually I used the St. Josephs Anxiety and research center, they are part of the McMaster hospital ring.


lawleypop fail, on snap

Oh, so you got a 5 minute diagnosis. Even more legit.

oh, so you've got a 5 minute face.

.... and scene...

Originally Posted by Rossclot

So for everyone who has been of the mentality that I should "man up and approach women", that is the same as you telling a crippled person in a wheel chair to "nut up and just walk". I hope you all feel horrible for not being nicer to be, but dont worry, I forgive you.

One of the therapies for Social Anxiety Disorder is "Social Skills Training". Supposedly when you have been hiding from life for so long, you need to be retrained on how to act in public and interact with people. I wonder how many people on this forum could benefit from it?

Dude, in no way is being scared of approaching girls anything like being crippled and not being able to walk.

And yeah, your "anxiety" can indeed be cured, by "social skills training" by nutting up and talking to girls.

Originally Posted by Rossclot

oh, so you've got a 5 minute face.

.... and scene...

I don't know what that means.

Originally Posted by lawleypop

I don't know what that means.

i think he meant to say that he only saw your face for 5 minutes and he ended the scene.

Originally Posted by Rossclot

oh, so you've got a 5 minute face.

.... and scene...

...the f*ck?

i just recently left my gf for a while.
so my advice would be just get out there and meet people.
theres people everywhere

Just curious....did u end up giving any advice to the guy this post was originally about?

Considering almost all of the advice was "Muslim people date differently", when my questions was about my friend wanting to get into the Canadian dating scene,... no I have nothing to help him with. The advice people most talked about are things my friend already knows, or falls into the category of "just be yourself!" which also doesn't answer the question.

It is the equivalent of me asking if people know how much bis-phenol A leeches out of a 591mL bottle of coke, and people turning around and screaming "I LIKE PEPSI!" or "MY MOM LIKES TO DRINK OUT OF CANS!".

I don't participate in the courting rituals the same way others do, and my friend in from Pakistan, so we are both in a state of ignorance towards Canadian dating customs. From everything posted in this thread, no, I will not be sharing any of it with him.




oh yeah and in response to this

Dude, in no way is being scared of approaching girls anything like being crippled and not being able to walk.

I wasnt comparing the two disabilities. Re-read my post carefully. It was a comparison between yelling at someone for a medical condition they suffer from. And if you think most physical handicaps cant be ameliorated, you should spend some time looking into stem cell and mechanized prosthetic technologies, some of the new stuff is mind boggling. They have crippled mice and then used stem cells to return most functionality of lower limbs. Also, there has been ridiculous advancements in using small electrodes to stimulate muscles. You wear a fanny pack that controls the motion, and newer system are wired into the brain, it is balls out impressive. You dont walk using the part of your brain that controls walking, it is wired into different parts so you have to actively focus on it. The big problem now is that the electrodes work in an "all-or-nothing" scenario, where as normal muscles only do as much work as is needed. So the technology is very physically draining.

Treating Social Anxiety Disorder is a whole other bag of kittens though.

Originally Posted by Rossclot

Considering almost all of the advice was "Muslim people date differently", when my questions was about my friend wanting to get into the Canadian dating scene,... no I have nothing to help him with. The advice people most talked about are things my friend already knows, or falls into the category of "just be yourself!" which also doesn't answer the question.

It is the equivalent of me asking if people know how much bis-phenol A leeches out of a 591mL bottle of coke, and people turning around and screaming "I LIKE PEPSI!" or "MY MOM LIKES TO DRINK OUT OF CANS!".

I don't participate in the courting rituals the same way others do, and my friend in from Pakistan, so we are both in a state of ignorance towards Canadian dating customs. From everything posted in this thread, no, I will not be sharing any of it with him.

But that's all dating is, is being yourself. There is no magic methodology. If someone finds you attractive and wants to date you then usually there is some sort of inclination and it is either up to you or that individual to make something happen.