Originally Posted by lawleypop

It has nothing to do with the gender. Male or female, shyness is disgusting.

Especially in beds...

Originally Posted by lizziepizzie

Well, girls have to try to somehow think like guys do, so although WE over-think things, we have to TRY to UNDER-think things like guys do. Which is pointless btw, becasue by trying to under-think things we are over-thinking. And I'm pretty sure that guys don't even bother thinking what WE'RE thinking and just think for themselves! SEE, I'M OVERTHINKING!!!

hahaha I am constantly told that I over think with respect to women and that this is probably part of the root of why I have had only a single date since the end of June.

Originally Posted by Kendoon

I prefer a talkative girl, not a super talkative blabbermouth ditsy one, but just a lady that starts her own conversations or better yet, rambles incessantly while I nod, perhaps give a quick response but mostly just stare at her boobies.

Haha, boobies.

Clearly you're too immauture for a gf if you still find the rod "boobies" funny.

Originally Posted by lizziepizzie

Clearly you're too immauture for a gf if you still find the rod "boobies" funny.

Hahahaha.

Boobies.

Originally Posted by Kendoon

Hahahaha.

Boobies.

You make a compelling argument. Please, tell us more.

Originally Posted by arathbon

hahaha I am constantly told that I over think with respect to women and that this is probably part of the root of why I have had only a single date since the end of June.

It's a vicious, vicious circle, isn't it? I think our problem is that ALL of us should just STOP thinking!

Originally Posted by lizziepizzie

It's a vicious, vicious circle, isn't it? I think our problem is that ALL of us should just STOP thinking!

Especially thoughts like "I will not go on dates with Al". Those would be good thoughts to unthink.

I'm in a sticky situation and need help. I really like this girl who lives on my floor in my rez. Unfortunately I'm having a hard time asking her out on a date. Before everyone tells me "to grow a pair and just ask her out", just hear my dilemma. I am a shy guy when it comes to talking to girls that I have a crush on ( I have no problem talking to girls on a daily basis). I only talk to her whenever I see her in the hallway or when we're in the elevator. usually small-talk. We're in different programs, and aren't in any of the same classes so its even harder to even make an excuse to "pretend i need help with homework" to spend some time with her. I have thought of just casually asking her out if I do see her in the elevator or hallway but.... here's the problem. If I do ask her out, and she says yes, its great, but if she says NO, then it makes it awkward. By awkward, I mean every time I see her (after getting rejected), it will be weird cause we live in the same floor and i really hate the idea of having awkward encounters for the rest of the semester till the day i move out of rez. Asking a girl out in a party or a club and getting rejected is fine because i'll never see her again and there won't be any awkward encounters in the future.

So my question....is there any solution to this problem or any tips anyone could offer me?

Originally Posted by sam_12

I'm in a sticky situation and need help. I really like this girl who lives on my floor in my rez. Unfortunately I'm having a hard time asking her out on a date. Before everyone tells me "to grow a pair and just ask her out", just hear my dilemma. I am a shy guy when it comes to talking to girls that I have a crush on ( I have no problem talking to girls on a daily basis). I only talk to her whenever I see her in the hallway or when we're in the elevator. usually small-talk. We're in different programs, and aren't in any of the same classes so its even harder to even make an excuse to "pretend i need help with homework" to spend some time with her. I have thought of just casually asking her out if I do see her in the elevator or hallway but.... here's the problem. If I do ask her out, and she says yes, its great, but if she says NO, then it makes it awkward. By awkward, I mean every time I see her (after getting rejected), it will be weird cause we live in the same floor and i really hate the idea of having awkward encounters for the rest of the semester till the day i move out of rez. Asking a girl out in a party or a club and getting rejected is fine because i'll never see her again and there won't be any awkward encounters in the future.

So my question....is there any solution to this problem or any tips anyone could offer me?

A) Totally feel you. Selective shyness sucks. I have so many female friends, but I run into the same problems with girls I have an interest in.
B) Just ask her to grab coffee or something non-threatening. Don't make it a date, unless she asks you if it is such (she probably won't). Just get to know her and gauge her interest. I'm not really sure from there since I usually screw up around this step.
C) Don't initiate contact with her when you're in a down mood, and whatever you do don't tell her you have women problems. Protip: In my experience telling a woman about your woman problems either makes her think you're pathetic, or cements the idea of you as a friend (as opposed to a love) in her head. By letting her know you have trouble with women, you're also going to make her wonder if you're interested in her, or interested in the fact she's a single woman.
D) I know what you mean about the awkwardness. It's held me back from making a move on this great girl I know for a while now, because she's one of a very few people I know in the class I have with her and we therefore sit together 3 times a week. But if she's worth it just take the risk. Awkwardness will fade.

Think about the awkwardness this way: in 20 years will it matter? Probably not. Go for it.

what kidn of girl would not want to hit this?

Originally Posted by sam_12

I'm in a sticky situation and need help. I really like this girl who lives on my floor in my rez. Unfortunately I'm having a hard time asking her out on a date. Before everyone tells me "to grow a pair and just ask her out", just hear my dilemma. I am a shy guy when it comes to talking to girls that I have a crush on ( I have no problem talking to girls on a daily basis). I only talk to her whenever I see her in the hallway or when we're in the elevator. usually small-talk. We're in different programs, and aren't in any of the same classes so its even harder to even make an excuse to "pretend i need help with homework" to spend some time with her. I have thought of just casually asking her out if I do see her in the elevator or hallway but.... here's the problem. If I do ask her out, and she says yes, its great, but if she says NO, then it makes it awkward. By awkward, I mean every time I see her (after getting rejected), it will be weird cause we live in the same floor and i really hate the idea of having awkward encounters for the rest of the semester till the day i move out of rez. Asking a girl out in a party or a club and getting rejected is fine because i'll never see her again and there won't be any awkward encounters in the future.

So my question....is there any solution to this problem or any tips anyone could offer me?

I have one suggestion GET OFF THE FORUM AND GO ASK THE CHICK OUT. You are wasting your time here. No one can give you the courage that you can give to yourself.

Originally Posted by lizziepizzie

Clearly you're too immauture for a gf if you still find the rod "boobies" funny.

Hahaha.

Rod.

Originally Posted by sam_12

...but if she says NO, then it makes it awkward. By awkward, I mean every time I see her (after getting rejected), it will be weird cause we live in the same floor and i really hate the idea of having awkward encounters for the rest of the semester till the day i move out of rez. Asking a girl out in a party or a club and getting rejected is fine because i'll never see her again and there won't be any awkward encounters in the future.
...

Well the situation being awkward after that is entirely up to you..

Originally Posted by bcars

Hahaha.

Rod.

Hahaha.

Rod boobies.